Finding Relief from Stress: Letting Go and Making Space

For people who are highly sensitive, the constant influx of sensory information can be exhausting. The awareness of our surroundings and the emotions of others takes a toll on our energy levels. Recently, I've realized the importance of balancing input and output. We absorb vast amounts of information throughout the day, but what do we do with it?

If we envision ourselves as systems with a limited capacity for input, we must create space to accommodate new experiences. It reminds me of when I was young and would stuff my drawers with so much clutter that they could no longer close, causing everything to burst out. Similarly, we reach a point where we become overwhelmed and can no longer handle any more, leading to a sort of implosion.

Perhaps we need to be intentional about creating space and letting go of old baggage to prevent this overwhelming feeling. How can we achieve this?

Exercise

Exercise may be the last thing on our minds when we're stressed and exhausted. However, even short bursts of physical activity can alleviate some of the pressure. If you feel tension rising, try standing up and doing 10 jumping jacks or vigorously fluffing up your cushions. You can also dance to your favorite song or simply shake your arms and legs while releasing a satisfying "ugh!" If you're in need of exercise suggestions, you can try the New York Times Scientific 7-minute workout. And if you truly don't feel like moving, even yelling into a pillow or tearing up paper can provide some relief.

Engulf Yourself In Music

Music is a powerful tool for stress release, as it carries immense emotion and has the ability to change our moods. Sing along to your favorite song or let the music guide your movements at home or in your car. If you don't play an instrument, you can pretend to strum an air guitar or beat imaginary drums. Consider creating a playlist specifically for these moments.

Create!

You don't need to be an artist to engage in the act of creation. Cooking, gardening, building, and decorating are all expressive activities that help release stress and tension. Whichever creative outlet you choose, ensure you have the necessary supplies readily available. When we're feeling overwhelmed, the last thing we need is to exert additional effort. By stocking your pantry with cooking essentials, organizing art or craft materials in a box, or keeping your gardening tools easily accessible, you'll be more inclined to unleash your creativity and find release.

Talking to a Trusted Friend or Therapist

Simply articulating and acknowledging our feelings can take the edge off. Sharing our emotional state with a close friend, loved one, or therapist allows us to express the pent-up emotions and provides an opportunity to feel heard, understood, and supported. Additionally, engaging in deep and meaningful social interactions is particularly beneficial for highly sensitive individuals (HSPs).

It's crucial not to delay these practices. We are constantly bombarded with stimuli, necessitating regular release to prevent accumulation. For some, blocking off dedicated time in our schedules solely for ourselves and turning off our phones to minimize distractions can be helpful. Remember, developing new and healthy habits takes time and may initially feel unfamiliar, so it's essential to offer ourselves encouragement and remind ourselves that we are deserving of the effort.

Warm wishes,

Tekin Meric, MSc

Counselor & Coach

If you would like to receive counseling or coaching support as you navigate these emotions, please feel free to reach out. I would be honored to hold a space for you online or in my practice in Amsterdam.